Self-centered? Depends on who's making the judgment. When it comes to your life, it's time you put yourself first. And that's why you allow it to happen in the first place: blame. You tend to accuse people and circumstances for your codependent ways, but all that's old news. The past is the past; the present counts. Stop living among the ghosts and create your future. Let others fend for themselves; you're about to become completely selfish.