It's easier to solve other people's problems than your own: but you have to start looking at what's right in front of your nose. That's why it's a good time to forget about everyone else's dilemmas and special needs. You didn't sign up to be everyone else's psychotherapist: you have your own problems! Does it really make you feel that guilty? Or are you just a little less than enthusiastic about facing up to the problems in your own domain?