Identifying what you want is the first step toward getting it, so think it over and get the specifics fixed in your mind. Go ahead and think big; let your vision of your perfect world percolate. Whatever you'd like to see changed in your work life, your relationships or your living situation is likely a lot closer than you think (though, of course, perfection will be elusive). After you have it in your head, find a way to communicate it to the relevant parties.