If you go looking for drama, you're sure to find it: but will you like it once you do? There's the rub. Wouldn't it be easier to figure out what it is you need from the party in question and then have a discussion about it? It's normal if voices get raised and emotions run high, but that's a far cry from charging into a situation with both barrels blazing, which (come on, be honest) is what you're tempted to do. Increase the peace instead.