The poise and assurance that oozes out of every pore doesn't only work from nine to five, you know. It's pretty much a 24-7 kind of thing, and it pertains even more to your behavior once you punch out of work, since just about everyone will still be looking to you for approval and support. That goes double for your family right now, so get busy. Think of it as a tremendous compliment, and be the benevolent dictator. You're perfect for the job.