Sometimes, no matter how hard you push or wish, things are not going to go the way you want them to. Although you won't have your hopes dashed, a bracing dose of reality will remind you that there are many things beyond your control. Most importantly, do not take this as a sign that you are powerless. Rather, take it as a fact that life would be pretty boring if you always got what you wanted. Seek out the company of people who understand this.